Facing Fears

What is Fear?
How to face fears in a healthy way?


  • Begins as you prepare for your next challenge
  • Insidious qualities – tends to permeate many areas of your life
  • Arise whenever we take a chance and enter the unfamiliar territory or put ourselves into the world in a new way
  • Inescapable – we can only transform it into a companion in every exciting adventure
  • Not the real problem – It is how we hold our fear. You should move from a position of pain ( Paralysis, Helplessness, and Depression) to a position of power (Energy, Action, and choice:  The ability to get yourself to do whatever you want to do)
  • Won’t go away, as long as you continue to grow
  • Present in Decision making: All you have to do is to change the way you think about it
    • Adopt the “No-Lose” Model – Stand at the choice point:
      • Notice that what lies ahead of you are 2 simple paths A, and B – Both are right
      • Both paths have only “goodies” = Opportunities to experience life in a new way, to learn and grow – despite the outcome
      • It is all an adventure – no matter the outcome
      • Observe that finding what you don’t like, is paradoxically valuable to what you do like

Fear can be broken down into 3 levels:

  1. Surface Story:
    1. Things that happen: “Aging, death, being disabled,..”
    2. Things that require Action: ” Decisions, making friends,..”
  2. The inner State of mind, rather than exterior situations. They reflect your sense of self and your ability to handle the world.
    1. E.g: Rejections, Faliure 
  3. The bottom of every fear is the ” I can’t handle it” idea
    1. The underlying of all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves 

All you have to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. It takes a great deal of Awareness, patience and perseverance to break strong emotion-backed patterns, thus take it in small and manageable steps and allow yourself time to really enjoy the process.

Only through action and commitment, you can change the quality of your life. The trick is to feel the fear and do it anyway, the “Doing” part comes before feeling better.


They fear their higher self because when it speaks, it speaks demandingly –  Nietzsche: Human, All Too Human


Who is that “Higher-self” that Nietzsche and many other thinkers refer to? 

In short, The Higher-self is everything in our heart of hearts would like to experience, who is capable of high-degree of sensitivity and attunement to a harmonious flow within the universe, Container of many sublime virtues: Creativity, Intuition, trust, love, joy, inspiration, caring and giving.

Unless you consciously or unconsciously tap into that spiritual part within, you will experience perpetual discontent.

From Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway

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