Masculine Confidence

What is Masculine Confidence?

Masculine Confidence:

• The ability to appear certain by tolerating uncertainty 
  • For hundreds of thousands of years, it was required for survival
• Earned: Increasing your confidence is necessarily uncomfortable and difficult. 
  • You must challenge and push yourself through adversity 
  • Expand by exposing yourself to uncomfortable situations – as long and as often as possible 
  • Take it to step by step, set goals, and split them into manageable stages
• Direct
  • Relentlessly go after what you want – As if, you are the best version of yourself 
• Deep Self-Respect for your soul
• Leadership
  • Be the driving force
  • Initiating and setting the direction and pace  
  • Extreme ownership – Lead until the end
• Decisive
  • Separate the decision from the act itself
  • You can decide to do all the things you want to do anyway- Orthogonally to your emotions
• Calm and relaxed demeanor
  • Comfortable in your skin – at all times
  • Collected and Ordered
• Optimistic
  • Posses positive expectations
    • Expectations are your mental predisposition to how you will handle uncertainty 
    • Self-fulfilling
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• Responsible – The ability to make things happen
  • To lead, decide, advance, and persist 
• Courageous, Risk-taker, and Bold
  • Do not be timid or tentative. A man who is self-assured and assertive will touch in a casual manner without hesitancy or uncertainty 

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult – Seneca

• Maximum Self-Esteem
  • Unaffected by others
    • If it is affected by the opinion of others, even the slightest, it is because you have unconsciously accepted the idea that your self-worth is open for reevaluation depending on how useful you are to society – By Socialization
  • Your own opinion/reputation about yourself
• Strength 
  • You are stronger than you believe you are. You can handle anything life throws at you.
  • Carry your own weight and have a spine
• Dominant 
  • Self-Trust and self-assurance – Value yourself 
  • Selfish most of the time – Understand that you are the most important person in your life
  • Relational to other people
• Independent 
• Shameless – Realize that everyone is busy worrying about themselves
• Unyielding
  • Personal Integrity 
  • Unapologetic in general
• Expansive Body Language (Universal means of communication that is automatically understood in all cultures and has been developed over millions of years – encompasses all of the nonverbal cues that we present to each other)
  • Spread out and claim space
  • Deep Voice: Tone, tempo, and volume
• Spontaneous
  • Acting on impulses without paying attention to inhibitions 
  • No second thoughts